Intimacy

Couples often lose their passion over the years for a variety of reasons, such as financial pressures, the stress of raising children and lack of communication. Often times, couples take their significant other for granted due to their busy and hectic schedules. Husbands and wives tend to forget that their relationship needs regular attention and maintenance. Here are six tips to bring intimacy back into your relationship.

How to Bring Zest Back Into Your Relationship:

Many of us forget that once you commit to a relationship, you must be dedicated to it. A relationship is similar to many aspects of life that take effort and time. Just like an accomplished student puts in the extra work to achieve an A in class or a post-graduate hones their skills to be the top in their field, everyone should strive to “master” the skills required to have a good relationship. You can start by committing to changing negative behaviours, especially those which result from falling into a comfortable routine. Although difficult at first, it is worth the reward in the long run to have a stronger and more open relationship.

A wonderful way to ignite the passion where couples that have let intimacy fall to the wayside is to take the challenge of having sex regularly. Keep in mind, I’m not saying that you have to have sex every day, but making a conscious effort to set specific date nights is a wonderful way to keep the fire going. Also, making sure your date nights are without distraction will better allow you and your spouse to enjoy one another, so turn off the TV and cell phone! Create an intimate space. It is important make time to have intimacy and closeness with one another, even if it meant getting up earlier and thinking of creative ways to do it.

Spice things up with thoughtful surprises. Instead of going out, hire a babysitter and plan a nice evening at home. Low on cash? There are plenty of caring ways to be romantic, including leaving an unexpected love note in your partner’s car or on their pillow.

Be affectionate in front of your children. Showing your children that you are warm and loving with one another is the best gift you can give them. This sets an example for your sons and daughters for how they should behave in their future relationships and demonstrates a healthy balance.

Modern lifestyles and environmental factors inevitably contribute to a growing lack of intimacy. Impotency and erectile dysfunction in many cases indicate an undiagnosed medical condition, such as diabetes mellitus, heart disease and cancers. Research indicates that around 55% of males (between 40 to 70%) have erectile dysfunction. Testosterone plays a critical role in a man’s sexual experience. Testosterone levels peak in the late teens and then gradually decline. Most men notice a difference in their sexual response by age 60 to 65. The penis may take longer to become erect, and erections may not be as firm. It may take longer to achieve full arousal and to have orgasmic and ejaculatory experiences. Erectile dysfunction also becomes more common. Tru X-Plod offers a unique combination of herbs that focus on preventing secondary conditions like erectile dysfunction, addressed with powerful herbal actives enhancing fertility and sexual performance. The beneficial effect of the herbal combination lowers blood sugar levels and ameliorating the diabetic condition in humans is well documented.

It is estimated that sex burns 85 calories or more for every 30 minute steamy session. Reaching orgasm can improve sleep, reduce pain and reduce chances of prostate cancer in men, according to a study by Harvard Medical School. If that’s not an excuse to have some “alone time,” with your significant other, I don’t know what is.

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One of the Ayurvedic Ingredients namely Myristica fragrance is a promising aphrodisiac in Indian traditional Ayurveda especially in cases of sexual debility or depressed desire. Experimental studies confirmed its safety and ability to increase sexual arousal.

Sexual health is important at any age. And the desire for intimacy is timeless. While sex may not be the same for everyone, it can still be satisfying and fulfilling. Discover which aspects of sexual health are likely to change as you age, and embrace how you and your partner can adapt.

Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let them know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner’s feelings, and letting defences down.

Intimacy often does not require words, but being able to put feelings and experiences into words makes intimacy more likely to occur. Intimacy involves being able to share the whole range of feelings and experiences we have as human beings: pain and sadness, as well as happiness and love.

As the years pass couples may go through the highs and lows in their relationship, and perhaps they discover a series of deeper levels in their intimacy. Every discovery makes the relationship more rewarding and fulfilling.

How to achieve a greater level of intimacy in your relationship?

Intimacy does not happen by magic. It should be cultivated and built up over time. This may take some people longer than others. Often the harder you work at intimacy, the more valuable and rewarding it is. The pointers below may be useful.

• Be positive about what you have in your relationship and let your partner know what you value about them and the relationship. Verbalise your thoughts (put it into words), don’t assume they already know. Everybody likes to hear that they are appreciated and loved.
• Create opportunities for intimacy. Make time when you can be alone together in a situation where you can focus on each other and on your relationship. The harder it is to do this because of the children, work or other commitments, the more important it is that you do it! Try to plan a regular evening, day or weekend for the two of you to be alone.
• Practise making “I” statements about how you feel. This avoids putting your partner on the spot, and may help him or her do the same. For example “I feel hurt you didn’t ask me before you decided” instead of “Why didn’t you ask me first?”
• After an argument look at the deeper feeling behind the anger, hurt, anxiety, or your sense of being let down. Talk to your partner about these feelings and ask about their feelings.
• How do you feel about yourself? When you’ve taken a bit of a knock and are feeling small and ‘put down’, or when you’ve achieved something that makes you feel good about yourself.

• How do you feel about sex?  What you like and don’t like in your love-making> How can your sexual relationship be made more enjoyable for both of you?
• Do you really know what your partner thinks and feels, or do you have to guess and ‘mind-read?’ Are you able to be open with your partner? Do you feel that your partner would not be able to accept some of your feelings? Relationships take work, and there are things you can do to encourage intimacy as your relationship develops.

Studies show that people who are comfortable being intimate, be it with close friends or romantic partners, are healthier. People of all ages should know how to practice safe sex. If you’re having sex with a new or different partner, always use a condom. Also talk with your health practitioner about ways to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections.

 Developing and maintaining a solid sense of self greatly shapes your sexual desire. Your reflected sense of self and solid self often outweigh horniness, hormones or your desire for intimacy and attachment in controlling your desire. Issues of selfhood trump neurotransmitters like oxytocin  and vasopressin testosterone, dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine every time.”

Ref: Eco Health Sense / Tru Essence